ThriveSet Coaching
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Dennis Guyvan, Life Coach in Chicago IL , Denver CO and Online Worldwide
My name is Dennis. I am a certified life coach. I help young adults (18 to 40 y.o) to break through procrastination, increase confidence, and get unstuck to achieve a productive, meaningful, and fulfilling life. My passion is watching my clients transform their lives in sectors like career, entrepreneurship, health, self-growth, relationships, etc.
My specialties include Life Coaching, Coaching for Overwhelmed and Burned out Professionals, Coaching for Web Developers, Self Esteem and Confidence Coaching.
So, where are you on the life-satisfaction scale today?
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Do you feel unfulfilled?
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Do you feel like you are stuck in life, just treading water?
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Do you feel lost, confused, or directionless?
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Do you think that your dream is too big to achieve?
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Do you think there is something wrong with you or other people around you?
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Are you beating yourself up for not accomplishing something you have planned?
My clients often ask themselves these same questions AND usually answer yes to most of them. I have been there, too, and I know how uncomfortable it can get at times to sit with that.
I also know that if you are reading this right now, there is a part of you that doesn’t want to give up on your dreams. I know that there is a part of you that wants to move forward and have an impact in this world.
What I also know is that the longer we deny the part that is yearning for something bigger, the longer it is going to take to reconnect and re-embody this passionate part of you. Neuroscience clearly tells us that the younger the brain is, the more plastic it is. So the earlier we change - the easier it is. Right now is the best time to take a step and reconnect with your drive and passion and start taking action. Let’s get you your dreams!
What type of challenge are you facing right now?
1) Do you have a direction, a goal, or a dream but find it difficult to keep taking action?
You might be thinking:
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Your dream looks too big.
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You are not that strong, smart, or loving enough to create the life you want.
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It feels scary to start.
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You feel like you are not competent enough.
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Just keep on waiting for the opportunity to come.
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Doubting your dream because others disapprove or discourage you.
2) Do you have a direction, and you are moving forward but staying unfulfilled?
You might be thinking:
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There is too much on your plate.
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There is very little joy or satisfaction in what you do.
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You feel like life only sucks the energy out of you but does not fill you up.
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You think that life is worthless until you hit the goal.
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You feel tired most of the time on the way to your goal.
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At times you feel like you are doing it only for the sake of a material reward.
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At times it doesn’t feel like the right path, that you belong there.
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You think that beating yourself up is the only strategy to win because self-acknowledgment would demotivate you.
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You think that willpower is the only way to achieve your goals.
Guess what? I felt the same way for years.
So, I am not a stranger to these challenges. For a long time, I considered myself a pretty productive person, not wanting to realize or admit that I was procrastinating a lot in between the productive sprints while my goal was to run a marathon. On top of that, I cannot say that I was fulfilled, even though I was doing a lot of great things in life. Things like moving to a different continent at the age of 18, getting a prestigious job in a foreign country, having an expensive car that I had dreamed of, living in a beautiful place by the lake, and marrying a wonderful woman. Despite all those achievements, I felt empty inside. I knew how to achieve goals, yet there was no fulfillment and consistency in my pursuit.
At first, I followed the shallow symbols of success that I had heard about all my life from the people around me. Even though having those achievements was great, I had never gone deeper than that. I was hearing all this advice about what I should do and was making life decisions based on it. I didn’t know what was really important to ME and WHY I did what I did. My own meaning was not there. A lot of the time, I was not even aware of that. I was doing those things as a norm, not deeply questioning myself on that.
What I now know is that you didn’t choose to be unhappy. A lot of this is just an echo of your environment, one that you couldn’t choose at that time. BUT you have a choice now. You can choose a different path and take control of your life now.
Secondly, I was trying to finally meet the need of being enough only by trying to achieve more. Sounds familiar? Focusing only on achievement is a pretty low-quality fuel for high performance. I was constantly pushing myself to achieve more and kept dreaming about my next goal, yet I never enjoyed the process. I was living from burnout to burnout; I’d somewhat recover, then push again. If you are reading this, there is a big chance you are experiencing this right now or from time to time.
Pushing yourself at times, especially at the beginning of a new journey, is essential, yet you cannot operate at your full potential by doing only this. Just like many of my clients, at one point in my life, I started to realize that there are more resources inside of me that I can tap into to perform better. It was time to start enjoying the process, not just checking the boxes on the to-do list. Funny enough, this is usually when my clients reach out to me for help with doing the same.
After my own realization, I started to nail down some of the concepts and tools to make the process consistent and fulfilling. I also started to systematize it to help my clients do the same. In this way, my interest turned into my passion and then into my purpose. These days, I serve my life coaching clients by helping them create the life they want, as well as finding that joy, meaning, and fulfillment on their journey.
With the knowledge gained from my life experiences, as well as from working with my prior clients, I believe that:
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You can create the life that you want.
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You are can enjoy your goals, while enjoying your process
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You are more powerful than you think you are.
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You do have the extra inner resources waiting to be discovered.
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You are here to thrive.
I am here to support you on this journey. Making this leap on your own can be quite overwhelming and confusing.
Coaching is a very powerful tool that can help you grow tremendously, yet there is a lot of controversy in this field. It is very easy to get a coaching certificate nowadays after just a few hours of online training, yet it takes years of training and practice to get good at it. So there are a lot of coaches in the field who do not spend enough time and effort to learn the skills.
My approach is based on cutting-edge research of the nervous system, neuroscience, and behavioral psychology. My work is based on techniques that are backed up by science, practical application, and personal use.
My approach goes deep into the operating system while also making sure that you move forward toward your goals. I am taking my job very seriously, and I have spent more than ten years studying psychology, completed 2 one-year-long coaching programs, as well as 2 years of a graduate program in psychotherapy. I have been providing coaching for over four years at this moment.
I believe that by working together and creating a crystal-clear vision that is based on your true values, as well as by falling in love with the pursuit, we will get you where you want to be.
In sessions, we will:
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Determine your CORE VALUES and INTERESTS; recognize and understand the things that are truly important to you.
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Create CLARITY on where you want to be
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Build an ACTION PLAN to get you there.
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Create an understanding of your BLIND SPOTS and LIMITING BELIEFS and find ways to work through them.
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Find the ENERGY to make the change happen by turning your interest into a passion.
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Get familiar with your nervous system and find your OPTIMAL PERFORMANCE STATE.
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Come up with strategies that work specifically for you to REGULATE your nervous system.
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Make sure your keep MOVING FORWARD toward your goals while remembering YOUR NEEDS.
Cross the river of change, get where you want to be; start your business, change your career, move to a different city, build meaningful relationships, and raise the level of joy, fulfillment, and meaning in life. By accomplishing your goals and finding fulfillment along the way, you will believe even more in yourself. It will reveal a whole new world of possibilities for you, opening the door to things that you have never thought were possible.
